Body Image in our Boys

Unfortunately, I am obsessed with my weight and body image. I have been since I hit puberty. It was like a switch went off in my head; with the arrival of my period came the obsession with my “weird shaped stomach” and “thunder thighs”. Since then, I have probably tried every diet known to Hollywood courtesy of the information on the Daily Moan Mail online and to be honest I’m not even fat and I never have been. I’m a good size 12 right now, three months after having had my second baby and what’s wrong with that? I’m young (ish) and although I could stand to do a bit more exercise and eat a bit less cake, I think I am pretty healthy. Once I lose the baby weight I should be able to get my weight down to….wait there I go again – obsessing about my weight! Sort of proves my point…

However, I know that I’m not alone. We women are obsessed with our body image. You only have to turn on the TV, open a magazine, browse the internet or just bloody well step out of your front door to be faced with envy inducing images of bronzed, lithe goddesses selling the next ‘must-have’ car/perfume/way of life. Go to your local hair salon and listen to the chit chat around you – my guess is that at least half of the conversations will involve diets or complaints about body image. Worse still, put a group of attractive, intelligent, interesting and engaging females together and what will the conversation always turn to? Yep, you’ve guessed it, body image. And don’t even think about standing up and saying “actually, you know what? I think I’m beautiful”. We all know what happened to Samantha Brick after all…

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I don’t know why we are like this but having a daughter now, I feel a huge responsibility not to pass on the burden of the bulge through my behaviour or example. I know that I will be really careful not to refer to my weight in any way, to eat sensibly and well in front of her, to avoid those tabloid type magazines designed to fat-shame women into further self-hatred and never ever to step on the scales in her presence. I want to be a good example to her and to instil body confidence through example rather than just words.

However, I’m ashamed to say it hadn’t really occurred to me to do the same for my son. Ok yes, he eats a relatively healthy diet and I encourage him to get out in the fresh air and be active but I hadn’t, until really recently thought about the example I am showing rather than saying because to be honest I just don’t associate boys with things like eating disorders. He is ten now and in that delicate and oh so unsure, impressionable, pre-teen phase. It wasn’t until I saw him pulling at the skin on his stomach and declaring “I’m fat!” that I realised what a mistake I have been making. It has made me question, do we think of our boys in the same way? What message have I been sending to my son by climbing on the scales every Monday morning or by letting him overhear me wax lyrical about how quickly I can lose 10lbs on a low-carb diet to my friend on the phone? Does it matter that he sees those trashy magazine covers on our coffee table or that I eat weird faddy foods in the run up to “bikini season”? I stupidly thought that as a boy, these issues wouldn’t affect him. I know, I know – even as I type that it sounds so ridiculous. Has the damage been done though? Are men just as obsessed with their body image as women or is my son out of the ordinary because of my bad example?

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Negotiating my way through these sensitive years on the run up to my boy being a teenager is turning out to be the trickiest and most thought provoking part of parenting yet. The responsibility to get it right and lead by example is consuming as I see shades of the man I will be sending out into the world. I don’t want him to obsess over his weight or body image – it’s an unnecessary burden to carry around at his age. I’ve spoken about my worries with social media and how self-conscious it can make young people but I think that as well as these outside influences, I need to reflect on the example I am setting for him at home. I just hope that at ten years in, I’m not too late.

 

 

 

 

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  1. April 27, 2016 / 7:49 am

    I don’t think it will be too late… I am sure that you will encourage your son to grow up to be a healthy young man and avoid too much focus on weight issues. Well done for taking a step to acknowledge that this needs consideration! I am sure there are billions that wouldn’t have even realised. #BloggerClubUK
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  2. April 27, 2016 / 11:37 am

    This is a fantastic article. Thank you for posting. Really well written and makes such an important point. My little boy is only 19 months old and I step on the scales every morning infront of him….I will stop doing this now! I’ve even had a male friend with an eating disorder so I should know better. Thank you for highlighting!

  3. April 29, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    I don’t think it’s too late to change perception at all Fi. I think boys are just as much as suspectible to weight gain/weight loss as girls are, due to the rise in social media, reality TV shows and the desire to look good for their friends and girls. I only have a daughter, but I know that I will be careful how I come across in front of her – maybe blow dry my hair and doing my make-up is already sending signals to look good. We will have to wait and see. Claire x
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  4. April 30, 2016 / 9:18 am

    I lost two stone before getting pregnant this time round and i am now 21 weeks. I have put on 8lb and it is an obsession! i keep trying on my size 12s just to make sure my legs aren’t getting big and I know its not healthy to think like this. I think its because i had only just got back into my 12s before I got pregnant. Seeing that extra weight is scary. I just have to try remember i can lose it again!

    I do not however mention anything about my weight to Holly. I don’t want her thinking about that!

    Great post
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    • April 30, 2016 / 2:08 pm

      It’s the downside of pregnancy isn’t it! But I hope you manage to relax and let your body do what it needs to do so you can enjoy the rest of it. THanks for linking up x

  5. April 30, 2016 / 9:19 am

    I think it’s never to late to make a lifestyle change for the whole family! I’m going on a bit of a health journey myself because I want to be a good role model for my daughter and I want her to feel good about herself as she gets older! #fortheloveofBLOG

  6. April 30, 2016 / 9:40 am

    I am going to be honest, I had never thought about this before but as a mum of two boys i think I will now. I am always stepping on the scales in front of them. Good post and a very interesting and thought provoking read! x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • April 30, 2016 / 2:05 pm

      I think its just not on most people’s radar – we tend to think of boys being more carefree then girls don’t we. Thanks for commenting x

  7. April 30, 2016 / 9:49 am

    Great post, really interesting and thought provoking. I don’t think it is ever too late to make a change in attitude and lifestyle. It is great that you have realised and that you are making a change 🙂 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • April 30, 2016 / 2:04 pm

      Thanks so much! x

  8. April 30, 2016 / 10:04 am

    This is really interesting – I never really think about boys having body image issues, but they can be just as susceptible to our behavior around weight and food as girls. My mother was (and still is) obsessed with her weight, and it was something that I picked up on as a child. I try to fight the weight obsession by never having scales in the house and trying to focus on healthy eating rather than losing weight, which (mostly) works for me. #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • April 30, 2016 / 2:02 pm

      I think I need to get rid of my scales too! I’m sure you are setting a great example – thanks for commenting x

  9. Sarah
    April 30, 2016 / 10:25 am

    I should probably stop telling my son that too much chocolate makes you fat. Mainly because he doesn’t actually care, but also for the above.
    #fortheloveofblog

  10. April 30, 2016 / 10:26 am

    This is a really interesting point that isn’t often discussed, but with the rise of male fashion and grooming etc, clearly young men are more concerned about their own appearance more than ever before.
    I have two little boys, and try to watch what I say in front of them in terms of body image – focus on health rather than size/shape, for example. The other thing is, it’s not just their own body image to think about – it’s developing their perception of the female body, and what they think it should look like, what should be important to women etc. (let’s just say I’m doing us all a favour when I parade around naked in front of my two, lol!) 😉 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • April 30, 2016 / 1:50 pm

      Focusing on being healthy all round sounds like a good plan and that’s what I’m going to try to do from now on for both my son and my daughter. It’s so true, what you say about giving boys a realistic image of what the female body actually looks like! Thanks for your comment x

  11. April 30, 2016 / 10:42 am

    This is such a valid and interesting point of view. We do tend to associate these sorts of pressures with girls but boys are so image concious now that it has to be a factor for them too. Thanks for sharing and hosting xx #fortheloveofblog

    • April 30, 2016 / 1:48 pm

      Thanks for your comments fellow Fi 🙂 x

  12. April 30, 2016 / 10:50 am

    People fail to realise that boys suffer from these issues too. Shame is, its so stereotypical for girls to have body image issues, that boys often suffer in silence. Thanks for sharing #fortheloveofblog
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    • April 30, 2016 / 1:43 pm

      I’m afraid I have been guilty of this but I will be much more aware in the future. Thanks for commenting x

  13. April 30, 2016 / 11:06 am

    I wouldn’t worry about it unless it ever gets to a point where he is putting on weight and it is becoming an issue, both of my boys went through a puppy fat year or two, they ate healthily at home but also ate the junk that kids like, much like myself at their age, then by the time they are around 14 they started to shoot up again and the puppy fat went and now they have educated me on eating even healthier and having less meat and my eldest won’t have anything unhealthy and completely sugar free, he is a really healthy weight, the youngest still has an odd bottle of fizzy stuff but then so do I, I figure a bit of something we want every now and then balanced with a lot of good stuff is ok, they have a bloody mcdonalds next to their school and i can’t stop him going there, but then i remember going to the chip shop every day, that said he knows its unhealthy and chooses to go as a treat and so its knowing your children and trusting them that they have listened to what you have taught them over the years, its all about balance. My son goes to an all boys school so they are possibly less bothered about their image as they don’t have girls to impress, but luckily he seems to want to look after himself for himself. I am always up and down with my weight but I don’t obsess over it and if i need or want to lose weight I just do and I don’t really think the boys ever notice, Im just their mum,

    • April 30, 2016 / 1:40 pm

      We are all just doing our best aren’t we – there’s no definitive parenting manual after all. Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience Emma x

  14. April 30, 2016 / 11:32 am

    Great post. Thanks for sharing. Boys are pretty concerned with self-image too – I used to see it at school as a teacher; it’s probably a bit more under the radar but there is anxiety for sure.

    #fortheloveofBLOG

    • April 30, 2016 / 1:38 pm

      It’s weird that we don’t tend to think of boys in this way but as you say, they are just as unsure as girls! Thanks for commenting x

  15. April 30, 2016 / 11:57 am

    I’m in a similar situation, very aware of how my daughter (5) will pick up on any image related comments now. My son (7) is very thin and thinks he’s the bee’s knees – happy to run around in the nuddy shaking it all about! 🙂 My daughter is built totally differently and we know we are going to be careful with her diet/exercise as she gets a bit older but it seems awful to have to think that way. Unfortunately whatever you do, the media will always be bombarding us with diets, ‘fat shaming’ pics of celebs, etc etc but I think the best thing we can do is try to encourage self confidence in our children as much as possible in order to give them the best attitude to deal with it. Like you I’ve had my own body image issues from before I was even a teenager and I don’t want that for my daughter, #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • April 30, 2016 / 1:37 pm

      Yes it’s really difficult to get the balance right isn’t it! I’m sure you are doing a great job. Thanks for commenting x

  16. April 30, 2016 / 12:51 pm

    Really great thought provoking post as a mum to 2 boys I’m glad I read this. I am very guilty of body shaming must in front of my boys. I’m definitely going to rethink that now. I know I would think twice if they were girls. TY For opening my eyes
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    • April 30, 2016 / 1:36 pm

      It’s so easy to dot though, especially as we don’t really think of boys in the same way! Thanks for reading x

  17. April 30, 2016 / 12:53 pm

    I definitely think kids pick up on our negative self-talk, boys and girls alike. I’m no expert, as my son is not yet two, and I don’t tend to talk about my weight much anyway, but I do try to be conscious of what I’m saying around him, about my own body image or other people’s. Interesting post. #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • April 30, 2016 / 1:36 pm

      Thanks for your comment – it’s good that you are setting a good example for our son from an early age x

  18. April 30, 2016 / 2:05 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this and I do think body image affects boys and men, but they aren’t bombarded with it in quite the same way girls and women are. However I think it’s important to set a good example to them but I wouldn’t worry that you’ve left this too late or anything, I’m sure you can have conversations with him about having a body positive attitude and so on. #fortheloveofBLOG

  19. April 30, 2016 / 2:11 pm

    Kind of different but I have a phobia and I always felt that ive I had a girl id pass it on to her. I hadn’t given it much thought if I had a boy. but now that he is here, its all very real! I try and normalise my worries as much as I can as I don’t want him thinking its “normal” to flip out about my worries #fortheloveofBLOG
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  20. April 30, 2016 / 2:40 pm

    I am TOTALLY guilty of this too. Ever since I can remember I’ve been obsessed about every extra pound on the scales. Every week I start by thinking, ‘I will lose a couple of pounds this week’ and I keep forgetting it’s not a great thing for my little man to witness. Thought provoking post! Thanks for sharing. #ForTheLoveOfBLOG
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  21. April 30, 2016 / 3:40 pm

    Thank you for your honesty. It is so difficult to maneuver around this topic. Especially now days, with so much emphasis being put on Body Image. A great reminder to be sensitive about this with both our sons and daughters. #fortheloveofblog

  22. April 30, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    Such an interesting post to read – my son is 12 and is very self conscious about his weight – he is a very stocky boy and is constantly folding his arms across his tummy so that it isn’t as obvious – he has also had boys call him fatso – it’s as horrific for a boy as it is for a girl and breaks my heart – there is little I can do as it is his natural body shape – he goes to an exceptionally sporty school where he does rugby 5 times a week as well as sport at the weekend and he eats healthily – we are very careful about what we say but it is important to not talk negatively about body image in front of children as they are so perceptive – my son definitely struggles more than my two girls I would say – heartbreaking at times. Thank you for raising the issue – a good read! Fab new linky! #fortheloveofBLOG
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  23. April 30, 2016 / 4:56 pm

    A really thought-provoking post. Like you, Mother is a size 12 but obsessed with her weight, convinced she needs to lose weigh constantly and as a result, denies herself treats. She wants to set a good example to me – like you do. If she wants to do that, she should eat cake and be happy x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • May 1, 2016 / 2:07 pm

      It’s all about balance hopefully Nothing wrong with a bit of cake now and then! Thanks for your comments x

  24. April 30, 2016 / 6:04 pm

    Great post and one that I can really relate to. I have struggled with anorexia my whole adult life, I have been in and out of hospital, had more therapy than I could ever begin to tell you, been up and down and finally, touch wood, I’m doing really well the last couple of years with it. For that reason though I am HUGELY aware of the effect that it may have had on my twelve year old son. I have always protected him from my eating disorder and I do think to some extent his has been blissfully unaware. Last year he developed quite an unhealthy obsession with his weight though and I watched with baited breath wondering at what point should we intervene. After a few months the phase passed and touch wood, he is doing really well and not worrying the same. It’s definitely something that we should be aware of though, for boys as well as girls. We never use words like fat, or good or bad foods, I make sure that the kids see me eating a variety of foods and treats and we talk about being healthy as opposed to being thin. It’s difficult though, as adults we so often struggle and our children are far more aware than we ever realise. #FortheloveofBLOG
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  25. April 30, 2016 / 7:08 pm

    Having just become mother to a daughter six months ago I have been thinking a lot about how important it is to give her a positive self image. A very thought-provoking post. #FortheloveofBLOG

    • May 1, 2016 / 2:06 pm

      Its great to think about it from an early age! Thanks for linking up with us xx

  26. April 30, 2016 / 7:11 pm

    There is so much focus on body image these days for both sexes. I agree with previous posters that boys and men do get overlooked sometimes when it comes to promoting positive body image. I’m having a health overhaul in order to be able to set a good example for my daughter, I hadn’t really put much thought into how important it is to set positive examples for boys as well as girls! Enjoyed reading this.

    • May 1, 2016 / 2:03 pm

      That’s great that you are giving it some thought Lauren, I wish I had done so earlier but I know I will be making more of an effort from now on! Thanks so much for reading and commenting x

  27. April 30, 2016 / 7:39 pm

    To be honest, you’re probably not to blame for your son’s sudden concern for his weight. I’ve read a lot of articles about eating disorders and they are becoming more and more prevalent in young men, mostly because society is just so pressurised these days. I really don’t think it’s your fault, but it might be worth having a little chat with him about his feelings around the issue in case it’s something that he’s struggling with. #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • May 1, 2016 / 2:02 pm

      It’s so sad that our young ones feel this amount of pressure isn’t it. Hopefully it is just a phase though. Thanks for your comment Davina x

  28. April 30, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    This is so interesting, I need to read all the comments now too. I have a son and he’s currently very little but I do watch myself whenever I say anything self-damning about myself…just because I wonder if th model our behaviour in some way, I don’t know the answer…there seems to be so much body image pressure on boys and girls now. #fortheloveofblog

    • May 1, 2016 / 2:01 pm

      Yes do, there have been lots of interesting comments! I don’t think any of us have the answer but all we can do is be aware and do our best to promote a positive body image. Thanks so much for your comments x

  29. April 30, 2016 / 8:37 pm

    Ooh this is a very interesting point, and one that I hadn’t thought about as a mum of a 10-month-old boy. But perhaps it is something that I should think more carefully about as he gets bigger. Thanks for planting the seed of thought in my brain. #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • May 1, 2016 / 1:59 pm

      I was completely the same Mrs Lighty, you just don’t really think about it do you? Thanks for commenting x

  30. April 30, 2016 / 9:18 pm

    I was a 10 before having Little R, and if I had been a size 12 three months afterwards, I would be happy! I’m still struggling to shift baby weight a year after giving birth, it’s so difficult. But I hope you I still a sense of confidence to all yourchildren. It’s odd how assume boys will be okay, but o completely understand, it’s always thought of as a girl thing. My husband, however, always tells me how fat he is so it is obviously a man thing too, it’s just las publicised!
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    • May 1, 2016 / 1:55 pm

      I think whatever weight we are we all obsess about our looks to some degree, which is really sad isn’t it. I wish we could all just love ourselves for what we are but none of us seem to be able to do that 🙁 Thanks so much for commenting Catherine x

  31. April 30, 2016 / 11:14 pm

    It’s incredible how much kids pick up on that you don’t even realise, isn’t it? I think it’s quite tricky to encourage healthy eating habits and exercise without drawing attention to weight and shape or size. I wonder how or if they address these issues in schools ? #fortheloveofblog

    • May 1, 2016 / 1:53 pm

      Absolutely! They are like little sponges, soaking it all up aren’t they! I disagree with the approach in our local schools – they are constantly bombarding the kids with messages about “good” and “bad” foods whereas I think it should be more the parents responsibility to provide the correct foods. I wish kids didn’t really have to think about it. Thanks for your comments x

  32. May 1, 2016 / 8:03 am

    This is a really interesting post, I have a 5 month old little boy, and when I found out what we were having I thought, oh good, at least we dont have to deal with all those types of issues. But then I thought about it more and realised it was still something that I needed to work on. I too obsess about my weight and how I look, and buy too many trashy magazines. For now I am just trying to focus on making healthy food so that when he is older I can give him nutritious meals…
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    • May 1, 2016 / 1:52 pm

      It’s a shame that so many of us do obsess about the way we look isn’t it. I think the media has a lot to answer for I think! Thanks for linking up with us x

  33. May 1, 2016 / 8:12 am

    This is a really interesting post. I have two boys who are 3 and 6 and I have to admit that it hasn’t crossed my mind to be mindful about talking about “being fat” and dieting etc but I should be.

    We eat a variety of foods and talk about what’s healthy and what’s not so hopefully that’s helped. #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • May 1, 2016 / 1:50 pm

      I definitely don’t have the answer as to what works with boys or girls but you’re approach sounds sensible to me and that’s what I’m going to aim to do from now on. Thanks for commenting x

  34. May 1, 2016 / 12:30 pm

    I worry about this too. I’ve a son, I think he’ll have a happy and healthy lifestyle so issues of fat himself will hopefully be minimal. I think though that the issue of how men perceive women needs to be addressed too. I hope my son will grow up to respect how women look regardless of their “weight”.

    • May 1, 2016 / 1:48 pm

      I totally agree with you Karen. It’s really important that we raise our sons to have a realistic and positive image about what women really look like! Thanks for so much for your comments x

  35. May 1, 2016 / 1:35 pm

    A very thoughtful post. I don’t have a son but my sister does and hes nearly 5. I have heard him say to his mum that he doesn’t want to get fat! Todays world is highly pressurised for young kids. it’s wrong xx

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  36. May 1, 2016 / 1:35 pm

    A very thoughtful post. I don’t have a son but my sister does and hes nearly 5. I have heard him say to his mum that he doesn’t want to get fat! Todays world is highly pressurised for young kids. it’s wrong xx

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    • May 1, 2016 / 1:46 pm

      You’re so right, it is such a highly pressurised world – I’m glad it wasn’t like that when I was growing up! Thanks for your comment x

  37. May 1, 2016 / 3:51 pm

    You are doing the right things encouraging a balanced diet – all we can do is lead by example and make sure they develop good food associations and hopefully good body image #fortheloveofBLOGS

  38. May 1, 2016 / 5:09 pm

    It’s so hard in this day and age, where people have so much pressure from the media to have the perfect body. I’m sure the fact that you’re so aware of the issue for both your daughter and son, will help them grow up to have a happy and healthy attitude. Thanks for this post, it’s reminded me of the importance of doing the same. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • May 1, 2016 / 7:15 pm

      Thanks very much for your kind comments – I really do hope so! x

  39. May 1, 2016 / 6:08 pm

    great idea for a post and so well written. a lot to think about thanks for sharing #fortheloveofBLOG

    • May 1, 2016 / 7:13 pm

      Thanks so much for your kind comments and for linking up with us on our first week x

  40. May 1, 2016 / 7:19 pm

    I’ve written on this subject too. I have two girls and i really try not to pass my weight issues on. Great post! #fortheloveofBLOG

  41. May 1, 2016 / 9:07 pm

    I’ve always been so up and down with my weight, and it is hard not to just pass it on. I really don’t want my daughter to pick up on it though because I remember copying my mum all the time in primary school and talking about how I needed to lose weight. :/ #fortheloveofblog
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  42. May 2, 2016 / 4:40 am

    This was a really good read. I too am aware of bringing my daughters up with a healthy body image but I hadn’t thought about boys too. Of course men are just as conscious of it as women. I was shocked when my husband said he was really fed up of his belly (it’s nothing!) as I thought it was just me with the baby weight that was the one thinking about their body. Perhaps men can worry more because they don’t tend to talk about it (unlike us girls who chat about it whilst eating cake – or is that just me?!) #fortheloveofBLOG

  43. The_tale_of_mummy_hood
    May 2, 2016 / 11:50 am

    This has struck a cord with me. I have two girls and I am also a little obsessed with my weight, and getting rid of it now I am no longer pregnant. On a rational day as you say, we look fine just the way we are! I think it’s important I take note from your post, and be careful what I do and don’t say in front of my girls so they don’t grow up with the same insecurities as me. Brilliant post!

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  44. May 2, 2016 / 11:51 am

    This is a great post, I try hard not to let my own lack of body confidence affect my kids. I don’t want them to worry about it like I do.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  45. May 2, 2016 / 12:25 pm

    This is so interesting. I had always thought about ways to raise Milo to respect women and always treat them right but you definately have to treat yourself right for them to get that message. It is just part of society and it will be hard to change the way you percieve your body sometimes. I’m struggling at the moment with my stretch marks but at the end of the day all the lumps and bumps are just part of life and they got me my perfect baby boy. I think pregnancy has taught me how amazing our bodies really are! x #fortheloveofblog

  46. May 2, 2016 / 2:48 pm

    This is something I’d never really thought about before but will do now. Thanks for sharing. #fortheloveofBLOG

  47. May 2, 2016 / 5:16 pm

    Great Post! I agree that media overwhelms us with what is society accepted perfect! I ranted about this in one of my blogs also. However I didn’t think about my son in the same light as my daughter because it is constantly woman geared.
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  48. May 3, 2016 / 2:20 am

    This is a really great reminder. I am not happy with my body at the moment and have recently cut sugar from my diet. I haven’t been making a big deal of it when my daughters are around, but I do talk about diet and weight A LOT with my friends while my sons are in the room.
    I will definitely be taking more care with what I say from now on.

  49. May 3, 2016 / 4:47 am

    You make a really important point here, and it’s something that maybe wouldn’t occur to everyone, but boys are also affected by body image issues. I think the most important examples children have are at home, so even though there may be so much pressure outside the home, from media or peers, to fit in with a certain idea of the ideal body shape, we can try to outweigh all of those influences by what we say and do at home to prove that all these ideals are unimportant. I know that’s easier said than done sometimes! #FortheloveofBLOG

  50. May 3, 2016 / 12:28 pm

    It’s an interesting perspective. I think most of us believe that boys don’t notice us worrying about our appearance. And I wouldn’t know because I grew up with a sister. But this has made me realise that it is important to be confident and secure in the way I look even if I have a boy. And especially to teach my child that being a good person is above everything else that you can be.

    Thank you for this. <3
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  51. May 3, 2016 / 2:10 pm

    You make a really important point here! I read a post earlier today about daughters & body image but we really shouldn’t forget about boys. They are also under pressure to look a certain way. Very thought provoking post lovely. Thanks so much for linking up with us at #bloggerclubuk
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  52. May 3, 2016 / 3:25 pm

    No it’s not too late, the damage most certainly hasn’t been done and he’s got you so you can show him the way. My boy is only two and I’ve always been very careful not to pass on any of my food related issues to him when it comes to eating or my relationship with food but I hadn’t really thought about how my body image issues could rub off on him too, so thank you, I will now be more mindful of it xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  53. May 3, 2016 / 8:08 pm

    How totally true – you have made me realise that I have only ever considered my body image in regards to my daughter but never my son. I don’t know if it has to do with him being so like my husband that I have always thought he will inherit his physique and so a bit of a moan about mine wouldn’t be so personal to him? Thanks for making me think.
    x Alice
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  54. May 3, 2016 / 9:35 pm

    Such an interesting point. I have a boy and a girl and, though we’re not at that stage yet as they’re still very little, I think I’d be in exactly your position. I also find it interesting that strangers always say my daughter is pretty or beautiful, while they say my son is a cheeky chappie or something similar. They’re just being nice, but it’s interesting how early the onus is on appearance for girls. Anyway – food for thought, thank you! #fortheloveofblog

  55. May 4, 2016 / 6:30 pm

    I find that my son is concerned about body image, not from a fat/weight point of view, but from a muscle building one. He is 9 years old and obsessed with having a 6-pack! It is difficult to balance the healthy body message without making it an obsession. You make some very interesting points here. Thanks for the great new linky #fortheloveofBLOG

  56. May 4, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. As a mum to a little boy I’ll definitely learn from you and try not to talk negatively about myself. Great post! And thank you for hosting #fortheloveofBLOG

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