Breast v Bottle. Can’t we just stop going on about it?!

 

Breast is best. Bottle is fine. Blah Blah Blah. Can’t we just stop talking about the subject?

Jamie Oliver recently hit the headlines with his controversial comments on breastfeeding. If you read what he actually said, it really isn’t all that shocking.

Lets just be clear about what he really said shall we?

We have the worst breastfeeding in the world. If you breastfeed for more than six months, women are 50% less likely to get breast cancer. When do you ever hear that? Never. It’s easy, it’s more convenient, it’s more nutritious, it’s better, it’s free.

Not exactly ground breaking was it? It’s mostly facts that anyone with half a brain already knew – although I admit it’s slightly dubious for a man to state that it’s easy. Nobody is chewing on his nipples after all.

When I was pregnant (both times) I was bombarded with information from my midwives, doctors and health visitor on breastfeeding based on medical facts and good solid research. As most pregnant women do, I also googled the subject and found a wealth of information at my fingertips. After weighing up my options I chose to bottle feed one of my children and I chose to breast feed the other one. I made these decisions based on a mixture of the information and how I felt at that time. And guess what? Both of my children are thriving, healthy and happy and there is no way you could tell which one had formula and which one had breast milk.

The point I’m making is that once women have been provided with the factual information that breast milk is a healthier option for mother and baby (stop hating me, it’s a fact) by their health care professionals then why can’t we just leave it there. There doesn’t need to be any more debate on the subject – the majority of women are more than capable of making their own decision about what is best for their babies, bodies and mental health as a whole without being cajoled and emotionally blackmailed into feeding one way or the other. I’m not referring to support here. If a woman has made the decision that she wants to breastfeed her baby, then she needs and should be provided with plenty of support. In fact, whatever way a woman decides to feed her baby, she should be provided with plenty of support.

It’s the debate over which method is best that I am referring to. I challenge you to walk into any school and pick out which children were breast fed and which were bottle fed. Name any influential, inspirational or brilliant person you can think of. Do you ask if their mother breastfed them? No. You can’t tell and ultimately, whilst one is marginally better for babies, it doesn’t matter.

Give the mother the facts. Let her make the decision that is best for her and her baby and lets do away with all the debate that goes on around feeding babies because quite frankly, it’s getting on my tits.

xx

 

 

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49 Comments

  1. April 9, 2016 / 10:08 pm

    A very important point you just raised. It really is up to the mother to decide, she knows what is best for her baby.

  2. April 9, 2016 / 10:09 pm

    This is a very important point you just raised. It really is up to the mother to decide, she knows what is best for her baby.

    • April 10, 2016 / 5:38 pm

      Exactly! Thanks for reading x

  3. Julia
    April 10, 2016 / 5:13 am

    Well said. My decision on how to feed my 6 babies were taken after finding out as much information as I could while pregnant & then adapting it to suit my babies & myself at the time. I’m sure this must be what most people do!

  4. April 10, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Exactly. I really don’t care how you feed them so long as you feed them. I did kind of resent Jamie Oliver stating it’s easy though. Erm, no Jamie. It’s bloody hard, extremely knackering and can bevery painful.

    • April 10, 2016 / 5:36 pm

      It certainly is – I have found it much more difficult than bottle feeding x

  5. April 10, 2016 / 5:55 pm

    I found it just tied in to the wider ‘mother nature knows best’ attitude which is really big at the moment. Natural births, no drugs, breastfeeding, etc. It’s lovely in theory but you only have to look at historical death rates to know that mother nature might know best – but she’s also incredibly cruel! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday x
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    • April 10, 2016 / 8:48 pm

      Yes this is true – there does seem to be a trend for natural parenting at the moment. I don’t have a problem with this but it seems to be being used as just another excuse to make judgements on others doesn’t it. Thanks for having me on the #KCACOLS link up x

  6. April 10, 2016 / 6:22 pm

    This is a great post Fi – I couldn’t agree more (as you know!). I think the thing is with Jamie’s statement, though well intended, was the “easy” part and the fact that he has a habit of sticking his nose into other’s parenting and lifestyle’s to tell them they are wrong… it doesn’t fit to be a millionaire with nannies and cleaners etc to be telling people how to live their lives and what “nutritious” food to cook their kids, anymore than it does to be a man and tell women that breastfeeding is easy. I do agree with him though – there isn’t enough support for women who WANT to feed, there never is, but there is too much pressure on women that DON’T want to feed. If we took some of the effort put into guilting and pressuring women into feeding then we applied it to offering better peer support, better information and more quality aid for women who DO genuinely want to feed and will persevere even though the pain and struggle, we would find our breastfeeding rates would shoot up. In the right way, without the bullying. H x
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    • April 10, 2016 / 8:50 pm

      Ah I just read your post. I see what you mean…more support for those who do want to breastfeed would be brilliant. I wouldn’t have been able to BF without the support that I’ve had but sadly I think this doesn’t happen often enough for those who want it. x

  7. April 10, 2016 / 7:22 pm

    The way I see it, is that if baby is getting fed and thriving… what does it matter what method was used?

    I bottle fed because I didn’t feel comfortable breast feeding. That was my decision to make as a mother. I don’t expect to be judged for it as I would not judge others.

    I usually tend to stay away from these topics now as they infuriate me so much. People will find any excuse to argue about anything and this is no exception.

    Laura

    • April 10, 2016 / 8:51 pm

      I agree – it really doesn’t matter. Thanks for reading x

  8. April 10, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Hear hear! Agree with Harriet above too. I wrote a post on my experience recently and I think the fact that there is so much pressure either way really causes problems. Make sure the facts are clear to all mothers, the support is there if they want/need it, and leave it there 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • April 10, 2016 / 8:51 pm

      You’ve summed it up nicely thanks for reading x

  9. April 10, 2016 / 8:11 pm

    Well said. From the start I decided to bottlefeed. It’s just my own decision. If people want to make their own opinion about it off you go but it doesn’t change mine. Breastfeeding is not for everybody and as I said before it also doesn’t always go to plan.

    • April 10, 2016 / 8:52 pm

      I totally agree – thanks for reading x

  10. April 10, 2016 / 9:23 pm

    Totally agree that Mum should do what makes her happy and comfortable so long as she knows all the facts. I always think you should tell Mums how many calories you burn breastfeeding haha, it’s definitely in the pro column! #KCAKOLS
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    • April 10, 2016 / 9:26 pm

      Didn’t work for me – I just ended up eating more because I was starving all the time lol! Thanks for reading x

  11. April 10, 2016 / 11:50 pm

    I absolutely agree, give people the facts but then let them make their own decision that suits their life and situation best. There is enough pressure and strew on new mums as it is! #KCACOLS

    • April 11, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      Yes there is. I can’t understand why motherhood invites so much judgement, we should all be rallying around each other> Thanks for reading x

  12. April 11, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    A good point you made about whether we ask someone if their mums breastfed them. I have done both and both were best for my babies at certain times.

    • April 11, 2016 / 4:44 pm

      Me too – thanks for reading x

  13. April 11, 2016 / 6:35 pm

    I hate this debate lol. and I hated how rotten I felt for bottle feeding my baby when I did want to breastfeed. If I did it again, I’d def take the “ignore everyone else and their comments and thoughts” approach! #anythinggoes

  14. April 11, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    I absoloutly hate the way it is thrown in your face when pregnant. I wanted so badly to breast feed but ot didn’t work out, I solely managed 2 weeks and I just wasn’t producing enough for her. I felt like I had failed so badly but I have a beautiful little girl who is healthy and happy x
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  15. April 11, 2016 / 7:50 pm

    I felt totally differently re feeding after both my babies arrived. With the first bottles felt right for me and with the second I felt great breastfeeding her (ok, maybe not so much the cracked nipples – ouch!!) 🙂 so I think just go with your instinct and what works for you and the baby. #bigpinklink
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  16. April 11, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    This is so true. All that matters is a full tummy and lots of cuddles. Each situation is different and you wouldn’t expect people in any other situation to persevere with something so hard, except ultr marathon runners or something! Thanks for linking up with us! #bigpinklink

    • April 12, 2016 / 4:29 pm

      Couldn’t have summed it up better myself Pink Pear Bear! Thanks for your comment x

  17. April 11, 2016 / 9:35 pm

    Great post!! I totally agree that it should be at the informed decision of the mother. Then, enough. Even then, we can make all the decisions we want and that doesn’t mean Little One agrees too! I had one who wouldn’t latch no matter what so I pumped exclusively until I found myself literally crying over a bottle of spilled milk that I spent a half hour pumping. 2 and 3 caught on right away There are just too many factors at play when the main one should be what is best, physically and emotionally for mom and baby. #AnythingGoes

    • April 12, 2016 / 4:28 pm

      That’s a really good point, sometimes we just have to go with what the baby will do! I have totally cried over spilled expressed milk too – nothing more demoralising is there?! Thanks for your comment x

  18. April 11, 2016 / 11:22 pm

    I agree! As long as Mom is taking care of her kids it shouldn’t matter! I hate the mom-judging movement. #kcacols

    • April 12, 2016 / 4:27 pm

      I know right?! Being a Mum is hard enough without all the judgy-judgyness. Thanks for your comment x

  19. April 12, 2016 / 6:53 am

    I agree so so much!! Breastfeeding really is mainly beneficial when they are little and their immune systems developing. After that everything in their surroundings influences it. Yes it’s better for the mothers but I do believe that if you are going to get poorly from anything it’ll happen anyway. Do only people who didn’t breastfeed get cancers? I’m sure some of them did breastfeed. We all need to be stronger and make our own decisions. And not feel judged if we decide one way or the other.
    #KCACOLS

    • April 12, 2016 / 4:26 pm

      I’m glad to hear you agree, at the end of the day as long as the baby is fed and growing well and Mum is happy then that’s all that matters. Thanks for your comment x

  20. April 12, 2016 / 7:30 am

    Totally agree with you – I get so fed up of always feeling I have to defend my feeding choices. How I feed my baby is my choice and like you say it really makes not a jot of difference long term anyway! #BigPinkLink

    • April 12, 2016 / 4:24 pm

      Exactly – I hate it when people ask how a baby is being fed. Tempted to just reply “through her mouth” next time 😉 Thanks for reading x

  21. April 12, 2016 / 1:44 pm

    I breastfeed my 9 week old and luckily for me have found it easy once my milk came in. but some people find it very hard, my younger sister was one. at the end of the day its everyones individual choice xx

    #KCACOLS
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    • April 12, 2016 / 4:23 pm

      You’re so right, it is a totally different and personal experience for each mother. Thanks for reading and commenting x

  22. April 12, 2016 / 8:23 pm

    Like you say, it’d be nice if everyone just stopped talking about it. Happy Mum, Happy Baby. Simple. #KCACOLS

    • April 12, 2016 / 9:18 pm

      Thanks for your comment x

  23. April 13, 2016 / 1:55 am

    So much this!!!!
    There are literally moms out there who are ABUSING their children, and people are so concerned about the mom feeding her kid formula. I’m currently breastfeeding my 12 month old, and love helping moms who would like to give it a try. But, it’s the MOTHER’S choice. Period. But the biggest thing, like you pointed out, is giving mom the facts. Too many mother’s are misinformed on both sides, and I would like to see that changed. #KCACOLS

    • April 13, 2016 / 3:12 pm

      Yes very good point! Thanks for reading x

  24. April 14, 2016 / 7:28 pm

    The whole debate does my head in! I agree, give the mums the honest facts and let them decide. I also think much more support is needed for mums that want to breastfeed, I agreed with Jamies statement. Thanks for linking to #PicknMix

  25. April 15, 2016 / 4:47 am

    As long as baby is getting fed and thriving, no one should judge what method was used. It really is the mother’s choice and every baby is different. Mine just wouldn’t suckle and getting them to do it was stressing me out big time.

    #kcacols

    • April 15, 2016 / 7:30 pm

      It can be so stressful can’t it – I wish us Mums would ease up on judging ourselves x

  26. April 16, 2016 / 4:52 pm

    Oh I love what you said about trying both methods with your kids and both are thriving, healthy and happy and you couldn’t find any difference!! This is just brilliant!! I really don’t think there is any difference. I think it is up to the mother to decide what is more convenient. Well said!! Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m so happy to have you for the first time. Also I’m very grateful for all the comments that you have done this week!! I really appreciate it especially being your first time!! I would to have you again tomorrow!! 🙂 xx

    • April 16, 2016 / 4:58 pm

      Oh thanks so much – it’s a subject I feel quite passionate about as you can tell. Loved being part of your linky – thanks for having me x

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