As I write this, I am surrounded by various plastic toddler debris and my ears are filled with the plaintive wail of “Mamaaaa where are youuuu?” You’d think from the shrieking going on, that I had died or something but in fact I have simply retired to a different room from my toddler to get some work done. She has Daddy and she has her toys but without “Mama” life is obviously not worth living.
I know it’s a perfectly normal (albeit slightly claustrophobic) toddler phase but being the centre of someone’s universe to such an extent can feel like a weighty responsibility at times and it got me thinking about this role and what it really means to be someone’s mother. What is is it that is so special about being someone’s mum? Aside from the uncanny ability to multi-task like a nappy-wielding ninja obviously?
From the earliest age, I think for me, my own mother created the special feeling of home. Home has always really been more of a feeling than an entity in its own right for this reason – not bricks and mortar but simply a feeling that home was wherever my mother was. The feeling of comfort and of certainty. I was always safe with her and I felt that she would know the answer. She also had an uncanny knack for making any space we lived in feel like a cosy and welcoming home – maybe it was the inevitable big batches of steaming lentil soup that would welcome me in from a day at school or maybe just always her being there.
Either way, when John Lewis contacted me to ask me to write about what made my mother so special, I knew without a doubt it was her ability to turn house into home both practically and emotionally.
But that’s just my mother and I know every mother is different – so I decided to put the question to a group of lovely people and find out just what the word ‘mother’ also means to them. Here’s what they had to say:
“Someome who puts all their happiness above their children’s and will do anything to see them smile” – Lianne.
“The feeling that everything is OK – whatever it is, however bad it is, it will be OK when she is there” – Emma.
Somebody that never judges and always supports me – Pete.
“The one person I can always call, no matter what time it is or what the problem is. Always on my side” – Amy.
“My safe place 💕 and just, everything” – Beth.
“Mother to me means home. It’s now my life’s work to make sure my daughters have my arms to come back to no matter where they go or what they do” – Kate.
“Never judging, gentle, kind, caring and fun” – Louise.
“Someone who is nurturing, patient, kind, gentle, manages everything seamlessly with an ability to keep everything in order and is always available to call on for help…maybe it’s all the things I want to be, or maybe it’s all the things I wanted” – Sarah.
This Mother’s Day, John Lewis are celebrating everything that makes your mother special with a range of thoughtful and carefully chosen gifts for every type of mother whether they be:
- fashion forward
- adventure pro
- loves her home
- tech savvy
- on the go Grandma
- multi-tasking new mum
You can find the perfect gift for your mother this Mother’s Day by visiting their website – John Lewis.